MIL Doesn’t Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

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Having a new baby in the family is a blessing. However, it is absolutely essential for everyone to respect the parents’ boundaries and take the child’s health into account! Though everyone might want to visit the infant and shower them with love, it’s important to wait so that they don’t fall ill. Ignoring this can put the child’s life at risk.

Redditor u/_Invader_Gir, who gave birth to her baby boy just mere weeks ago, turned to the r/TrueOffMyChest subreddit to share how her mother-in-law completely trampled her boundaries. The MIL showed up unannounced, kissed the baby, and now he’s fallen ill. You’ll find the full story as you read on. Daily Trend Blog has reached out to the author via Reddit, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.

Meanwhile, Daily Trend Blog reached out to children’s safety and education advocate Jayneen Sanders, who was kind enough to shed some light on how parents can enforce healthy boundaries when it comes to visiting and having physical contact with their children. Sanders is also an elementary school teacher, mother of three, and the author of over 100 stories for children. You’ll find her insights below.

Extended family and friends shouldn’t visit newborns until they’re 2 to 3 months old and have a stronger immune system

MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

One mom opened up about how her mother-in-law completely disregarded her boundaries and got her 3-week-old baby ill

MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick
MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

Clear boundaries are essential for healthy relationships

Let’s make a few things very clear right off the bat. Consent is incredibly important. Being mindful of other people’s boundaries is essential because it shows that you respect and care for them.

So when a new mom asks you not to visit her baby until she feels comfortable with it, the right thing to do is to accept this, respect her wishes, and wait.

Unfortunately, far from everyone understands these things that seem common sense to many people. For some folks, boundaries are ‘optional.’ They see their wants and needs as more important than everyone else’s. This may not be the best attitude to have in life.

MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

Case in point, redditor u/_Invader_Gir’s mother-in-law said she understood everything and wouldn’t visit the baby until he was at least a couple of months old. She then completely disregarded her promise and staged a surprise visit.

Not only did she kiss the baby without consent (while also having a cold!), but she also invited over an entire group of people. Yes, everyone can’t wait to meet the munchkin. However, this is dangerous for the baby’s health and disrespectful to the mom. According to the OP, her son fell ill with a fever.

It’s not impossible for the family to move past this incident. However, it does mean that everyone will need to be more mindful of each others’ boundaries moving forward.

Furthermore, the mom should not feel like she has to accommodate other people’s wishes if they make her deeply uncomfortable or put her newborn at risk. This means that she will have to set very clear expectations and enforce consequences for people who ignore her boundaries from here on out.

Grownups need to understand that the child’s safety is paramount

Sanders, from Educate2Empower Publishing, aims to help keep children safe by teaching them age-appropriate and empowering prevention education. She was kind enough to answer our questions about how parents can establish and enforce boundaries when it comes to their children, no matter their age.

“Explain to the visitors that you are teaching your children body safety and consent education, which includes them having the right to decide how they greet people,” the children’s safety and education advocate said.

MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

“Explain that, through teaching this education, your children have learned that everyone has a body boundary or personal space around their body, and people need to ask for hugs and kisses,” she told Bored Panda via email.

We asked Sanders whether there is a right way for someone to respond when a relative ignores the boundaries that they’ve set up and kisses the child without consent.

“Keep in mind our children are small and adults seem very big to them. So if someone is ignoring your child’s wishes and kisses or hugs them without consent, then you need to be that ‘warrior’ parent and say, for example, ‘Darby said she did not want a kiss, and I’d like you to honor her wishes, please,’” she gave an example.

“You can be polite and non-confrontational. However, by standing up for your child, they know you are on their side and will always be their ‘safe’ person,” she explained to Bored Panda.

“If you do offend a relative, it’s important to remember your child’s voice and their safety are far more important than offending a disrespectful adult.”

Adults need to be aware of hygiene procedures and not visit babies if they’re feeling unwell

This isn’t just about consent and boundaries, though. The issue lies in ignoring common sense and science, too.

Johns Hopkins University stresses the fact that parents ought to limit the number of visitors who come into close contact with their newborn.

Extended family and friends ought to wait two to three months until the baby’s immune system gets stronger.

MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

“Newborns have not had time to develop their immune system, so they are at higher risk for developing infections from both bacteria and viruses. They are also more susceptible to developing serious infections, such as sepsis and meningitis.”

Taking this into account, many doctors consider newborns younger than three months old with a fever, where their temperature is higher than 100.4 degrees F (38 degrees C), to be an emergency.

Anyone visiting a newborn ought to make sure that they’ve washed their hands thoroughly and removed the jewelry from their hands. They should also refrain from kissing the baby or getting too close to their face to avoid spreading germs.

Naturally, if you’re feeling at all unwell, you should not be visiting anyone’s baby. Wait until you’ve gotten fully better.

The mom engaged with a lot of the people who read her story, in the comments

MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

The mom later clarified a few things and shared some additional important details

MIL Doesn't Want To Wait 2 Months To See Newborn, Comes Over Unannounced And Gets The Baby Sick

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