Woman Ignores BF’s Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead

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This woman is wondering if she was wrong for ignoring her boyfriend’s calls after he showed up over 2 hours late. Being in a relationship requires making compromises. Your partner might prefer Thai food when you were really craving Indian, and you may find your bedtime becoming earlier and earlier after moving in with your partner to accommodate their sleep schedule. 

But making compromises requires healthy communication, otherwise you might end up in uncomfortable misunderstandings often. One woman recently shared a story on Reddit detailing how her boyfriend showed up at her home several hours later than the time they agreed upon, so she had already gone to sleep.

Below, you’ll find the full story, as well as some of the replies from readers.

After an evening out with a friend, this woman told her boyfriend that he could come over around midnight

Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead

But when he didn’t show up until 2:30am, she decided that he was too late

Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead
Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead
Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead
Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead
Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead
Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead

Punctuality is important for many people

I’m an extremely punctual person, and it used to drive me crazy when my friends couldn’t manage to be on time no matter how important the occasion was. If we’re meeting for coffee or casually hanging out, I can understand not rushing to be perfectly punctual. And being 5-10 minutes late is fine in most scenarios. But being an hour or more late is extremely frustrating, and starts sending a message that your time is more important than the time of whoever’s waiting for you.

According to Aaron Ben-Zeév, PhD, at Psychology Today,  tardiness can damage long-term relationships, because even when it’s not intended to be harmful, it can hurt the feelings of whoever’s waiting. The people we love the most have the power to hurt us the most, after all. And if you’re constantly waiting around for someone who’s supposed to love you, it can feel like they don’t value the relationship as much as you do.

Some couples are able to look past a lack of punctuality and simply accept it as a flaw that won’t go away. In fact, for those who are able to do so, this might be the healthiest move. According to a study from San Francisco State University, about 17% of Americans are chronically late, so it may be easier to accept this tardiness than cut anyone out of our lives that can’t show up on time.

It’s considerate to alert your partner if you’re running late

The woman in this story shared in the comments that her boyfriend is actually punctual most of the time, so lucky for her, it’s not a recurring issue in their relationship. But it can become a problem without proper communication in place. As with anything else in life, what you’re saying matters just as much as how you go about saying it.

Learn Laugh Speak recommends apologizing when you’re running late and providing a brief explanation as to what happened. It’s also wise to alert the other party as soon as possible if you know you’re going to be late. Telling them early might mean they can simply leave the house later to meet you at the right time, rather than waiting around before they realize that you won’t be on time.

It’s also considerate to offer to make up for being late. Buy your friend’s lunch if they had to wait for you, or surprise them with flowers the next day. And thank them for their patience. You might say something like, “Thank you so much for your understanding,” or, “Thanks for being patient with me.” Take full responsibility for your tardiness, and try to prevent it from happening in the future. If you apologize, and you sincerely mean it, that means that you don’t want it to happen again.

Clear and healthy communication is key in any relationship

There’s no question that communication is the cornerstone to any healthy relationship. Being able to express emotions with your partner and work together to solve problems is a necessary skill to have, and the better you and your partner can articulate your thoughts, the less likely you are to have misunderstandings. 

According to Better Health, healthy communication requires not only conveying your own feelings, but also listening to your partner, picking up on nonverbal cues and using body language, and working actively on improving communication. When conflicts arise, try not to jump to conclusions or suddenly become upset. Hear your partner out, and try to consider the situation from their side too. And never expect your partner to read your mind. Even if you believe something is obvious, there might be something entirely different going on in their head.

We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this woman was in the wrong for ignoring her boyfriend’s calls? Feel free to share, and then you can check out another Bored Panda article discussing relationship drama. 

Later, the woman responded to some replies call and provided more background information

Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead
Woman Ignores BF's Call At 3 AM And Goes To Sleep Instead

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